2 Things I Decide To Do Everyday

Because what do decide to do and what we actually do are never the same.

“You can wake up everyday and just decide who you want to be that day.” - Kylie

Deciding Who You Want To Be

“You can wake up everyday and just decide who you want to be that day.” - Something my oldest daughter, Kylie, of 26 beautiful years has said to me now, twice (that I can remember). I cannot remember where we were the first time but I do remember thinking to myself, “how great it would be if I adopted that thought too” - But this time was different.

This time, I thought “Yes!”

I was with both of my daughters in a beautiful western jewelry shop and there was a necklace on sale that had small silver horseshoes strung together with tiny diamonds on them. It was beautiful, but I thought “I don’t want to wear this and seem like an imposter because I had never worn anything like this before. What would others think….. I would not want anyone to be uncomfortable because I am wearing this necklace.”

I made this little necklace so significant in my life so quickly that the thought of just loving it and buying it as something special was the furthest from my mind. So I said, outloud, “this is so pretty but it really isn’t me…is it?” And standing next to me, this 5’8”, dark haired, woman who had grown to be her own person, very nonchalantly, replied “You can wake up everyday and just decide who you want to be that day.” and proceeded to give me several examples of her own life. I didn’t buy that necklace that day, but I sure wish I had. Not just because it was beautiful but for what it now represents; a lesson from my oldest daughter… and a lesson for life.

Not just because it was beautiful but for what it now represents; a lesson from my oldest daughter; and a lesson for life. - JRC

My Own Goals

" But once I discovered that the encouragement that I gave to my husband and kids and co-workers could also be encouragement that I gave to myself, I truly started to like myself and see different results " - JRC

I share this story not only because I find it absolutely fascinating when any of my kids give me an eye opening, powerful thought, but because it wasn’t until over the last couple years that I truly started to make decisions to reach my own goals.

I love being a wife, a mom, daughter and having my consulting Corporate job and …(on and on)…….. But once I discovered that the encouragement that I gave to my husband and kids and co-workers could also be encouragement that I gave to myself, I truly started to like myself and see different results. When I stopped running from my bad thoughts and negative feelings and accepted them and loved them as a part of me is when I made room for the positive feelings to come up for air.

Brooke Castillo recently shared something amazing. She said something along the lines of, when you remind yourself that you didn’t create yourself, all of the sudden living to your capacity and rewarding yourself is okay. You come installed with ALL the capabilities, why not touch all the buttons to see what they can do!

Top 2 things I make the decision to do everyday

1. Treat myself like some who I was meant to help win.

HOW you can do this: Experiment with encouraging yourself as you would a close friend or a child. Ex. “I am amazing. I am here for you. It’s okay, I got you. Come on, I will be right here next to you.”

WHY: Belief in yourself is a psychological decision you have to keep making. The more you do it the more you will believe it!

2. Live from my future self.

HOW you can do this: Visualize. Don’t put limits on anything. Visualize so much that you know how it feels, tastes, looks like, and smells.

WHY: When you make decisions from the place where it has already happened and when you visualize daily your brain thinks it is already living it.

Then your daily actions will start to reflect it. Possibility comes from your imagination.

BONUS: If overwhelm, doubt, worry, or confusion pop up, find the sentences that are causing the feeling and decide if they are worthy for you to believe.

Hint, they are not. So DECIDE to let them go. Pack a little suitcase of love and send them out the door.